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It is very important to be wary of guilt when you are a working mother. The fact that you are working when you should be spending time with your child may make you feel guilty. You may feel the urge to do something to compensate the child for the loss it has suffered.
If you present your decision in the right manner, your child may end up feeling proud about the fact that he or she has a mother who not just takes care of the home but works as well. On the other hand, if you behave as if the child is making a huge sacrifice and that you are very apologetic for the same, the child will quickly learn to manipulate the same to its advantage.
This guilt that causes more problems in homes than the fact that the mother is working. Guilt compels parents to do and accept stuff that they would never agree otherwise. The whims and fancies of the child will be accepted without any details.
The fact that parents have extra cash in hand works as a disadvantageous factor. The child very quickly realizes that becoming a martyr and pointing out the extent of sacrifice can immediately make the parents feel guilty.
If you notice a pattern, you will realize that your kids often brings up how lonely he or she becomes and how he envies his or her friends whenever any request for stuffer goodies is about to be made. This does not necessarily make your kid a manipulative child.
All kids love to manipulate if they are given the chance to do so. This is merely proof that you have made the mistake of behaving in an over sensitive manner. Stop doing so and make sure that you provide the right level of affection and discipline to your kids. Do not try to overcompensate either on the affection or the discipline part just because you are working.
